I’m a survivor of the Boko Haram insurgency, but my life will never be the same. I was caught in the crossfire during an attack on our village. A stray bullet shattered my spine, leaving me paralysed from the waist down.
Life as a person with a disability in Maiduguri is incredibly challenging. Simple tasks like bathing, dressing, or even getting out of bed require immense effort and assistance. My family has been my rock, but it’s not easy for them either. My parents are ageing, and my siblings have their own struggles. Despite their best efforts, there are days when I feel like a burden.
The infrastructure in Maiduguri is not conducive to people with disabilities like me. Buildings are not wheelchair-accessible, and public transportation is a nightmare. I’ve had to rely on my family members to carry me around, which is both physically demanding for them and emotionally draining for me.
The economic situation is also tough. Before the insurgency, I was a skilled farmer, providing for my family. Now, I’m unable to work, and my family struggles to make ends meet. We’ve had to rely on aid from government agencies and non-governmental organisations, which is often insufficient and inconsistent.
Despite these challenges, I’ve found ways to cope. I’ve learned to be resilient and adaptable. I’ve started teaching children in my community, using my knowledge to make a difference in their lives. It’s not much, but it’s something that gives me purpose.
I struggle with anxiety and depression, often feeling like I’m stuck in a never-ending cycle of pain and hardship. There are days when I wonder if life is worth living. But I know I have to keep pushing forward, for myself and my family.
The stigma surrounding disabilities in our community is another hurdle. Some people view us as cursed or punished by God. It’s heartbreaking to see people look at me with pity rather than understanding and support.
Despite all these challenges, I’m determined to live a fulfilling life. I’m learning to accept my new reality and find ways to thrive. I’ve started attending rehabilitation sessions, hoping to regain some mobility. I’m also involved in advocacy work, pushing for more accessible infrastructure and support for people with disabilities in Maiduguri.
As narrated by: Bukar Kolo (Maiduguri, Nigeria).
This snippet is published as part of a series, The Day Boko Haram Attacked.
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